12-step programs, such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA), are based on a set of spiritual principles that are intended to guide individuals on a path of recovery from addiction. These spiritual principles are not associated with any specific religion or belief system, and they are considered to be universal in nature, accessible to people of all faiths or no faith at all. The spiritual principles of the 12-step programs are as follows:
- Honesty with oneself and others: Honesty is a foundational principle in recovery. It involves being truthful with oneself and others about the nature of addiction, acknowledging one’s shortcomings, and being willing to face and address them without denial or evasion. This can be practiced through regular self-assessment, acknowledging and admitting mistakes, and being transparent in communication with oneself and others. Honesty involves being truthful with oneself and others about the reality of one’s addiction and its consequences. It includes being honest in one’s actions, interactions, and communications with others. Honesty is crucial in recovery as it allows individuals to face their addiction and take responsibility for their actions, and build trust in relationships.
- Self-care: Self-care is the practice of taking care of oneself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It involves making healthy choices and engaging in activities that promote well-being, such as regular exercise, proper nutrition, getting enough sleep, managing stress, seeking therapy or counseling when needed, and engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment.
- Accountability: Accountability involves taking responsibility for one’s actions, behaviors, and their consequences. It includes acknowledging the harm caused by addiction, making amends for past mistakes, and being willing to be accountable to oneself, others, and a higher power. This can be practiced through Step 9, where individuals make direct amends to those they have harmed, and through ongoing self-reflection and willingness to learn from mistakes.
- Boundaries: Boundaries are healthy limits that individuals set to protect themselves physically, emotionally, and mentally. In recovery, it’s important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to avoid triggers, protect one’s sobriety, and maintain healthy relationships. This can be practiced by learning to say “no” when necessary, setting limits on behaviors or activities that may jeopardize recovery, and learning to assertively communicate one’s needs and boundaries.
- Mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment, without judgment or attachment to the past or the future, and with full awareness of one’s surroundings, thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations and behaviour, in an attitude of curiosity without reacting impulsively or being carried away by them. Mindfulness can be practiced through meditation, deep breathing exercises, and being fully present in daily activities, which can help individuals become more self-aware and make conscious choices. with Mindfulness can help individuals in recovery become more aware of their triggers, cravings, and emotional states, and develop healthy coping skills to manage them.
- Resilience: Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, challenges, and difficulties. In recovery, resilience is crucial as there may be obstacles and triggers along the way. Resilience can be practiced by developing coping skills, learning healthy ways to manage stress and emotions, seeking support when needed, and maintaining a positive mindset.
- Authenticity: Authenticity involves being true to oneself and others, being honest, transparent, and genuine in one’s words, actions, and interactions and expressing one’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences in an honest and genuine way. In recovery, authenticity means embracing vulnerability and being willing to share openly and honestly with others. It involves letting go of pretense, denial, and self-deception, and embracing self-awareness and self-acceptance, embracing one’s true self, without hiding behind a facade or masks of addiction. Authenticity can be practiced through open and honest sharing in meetings or with a sponsor, being true to one’s values and beliefs, and being willing to be vulnerable and genuine in relationships.
- Gratitude: Gratitude involves cultivating a positive and appreciative attitude towards life and recognizing the blessings and positive aspects, even in challenging situations. Gratitude in recovery means focusing on the progress made, the support received, and the opportunities for growth and learning. Practicing gratitude can help individuals shift their mindset from negativity and victimhood to positivity and empowerment.
- Humility: Humility involves acknowledging one’s imperfections and limitations and being willing to learn from others. It involves letting go of ego, pride, and the need to be right or perfect. Humility in recovery means acknowledging that one’s addiction is a disease and that ongoing effort, support, and growth are necessary for sustained recovery. In recovery, practicing gratitude and humility can help individuals maintain attitudes of openness, receptivity, and willingness to grow and change.
- Compassion: Compassion involves showing kindness, understanding, and empathy towards oneself and others. In recovery, practicing self-compassion and compassion towards others can foster empathy, understanding, and forgiveness. This can be practiced through acts of service, offering support and encouragement to fellow addicts, and being kind and understanding towards oneself during challenging times.
- Acceptance: Acceptance involves acknowledging and embracing the reality of one’s situation without judgment or resistance. In recovery, acceptance means accepting the past, the present, and the imperfections of oneself and others. It involves letting go of resentments, regrets, and unrealistic expectations, and learning to live in the present moment. Acceptance can be practiced through mindfulness, meditation, and working through the process of accepting the things that cannot be changed.
- Surrender: Surrender in recovery means letting go of the need to control or manage everything and recognizing that there are certain things that are beyond one’s control. It involves acknowledging one’s powerlessness over addiction and surrendering to a higher power, as defined by each individual’s understanding. Surrender can be practiced through ongoing willingness to let go of control and trust in a higher power or a supportive community.
- Forgiveness: Forgiveness involves letting go of resentment, anger, and grudges towards oneself and others. It involves releasing the emotional burden of past hurts and finding healing and closure. Forgiveness in recovery means acknowledging the harms done during active addiction, making amends where appropriate, and letting go of the shame and guilt associated with past mistakes.
- Integrity: Integrity involves living in alignment with one’s values, principles, and commitments. It involves being honest, accountable, and responsible for one’s actions and choices. Integrity in recovery means being true to one’s recovery program, being transparent in relationships, and living a life that is consistent with one’s recovery goals and values. Integrity involves striving to be morally upright and maintaining consistency between one’s thoughts, words, and actions. It includes taking responsibility for one’s mistakes and shortcomings, and making amends where necessary. Integrity is important in recovery as it helps individuals build self-respect, gain the trust of others, and live a life consistent with their values.
- Hope: Hope involves maintaining a positive outlook and believing that recovery is possible, even in the face of challenges and setbacks. It provides individuals with the motivation to keep going, even when the road seems difficult. Hope instills a sense of possibility and optimism, helping individuals to stay committed to their recovery journey.
- Faith: Faith involves cultivating a sense of trust and reliance on a higher power or a power greater than oneself. This can be meaningful to each individual, whether it’s a religious or spiritual belief, a sense of connection with nature, or a faith in the recovery process itself. Faith provides individuals with a sense of support, guidance, and strength beyond their own abilities.
- Courage: Courage involves summoning the strength and determination to face the challenges of recovery. It includes admitting one’s faults and making amends for harm done, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable. Courage is necessary in recovery as it requires individuals to confront their fears, be vulnerable, and take courageous steps towards healing and growth.
- Willingness: Willingness involves being open-minded and receptive to change. It includes being willing to act, seek help, and support from others. Willingness is crucial in recovery as it requires individuals to let go of resistance, embrace new perspectives, and be willing to do the necessary work for their recovery.
- Justice: Justice involves taking responsibility for one’s actions and making amends to those who have been harmed, to the extent possible, without causing further harm. It includes taking accountability for one’s past mistakes and working towards restitution and reconciliation. Justice is important in recovery as it encourages individuals to make right their wrongs, take ownership of their actions, and seek forgiveness and healing.
- Perseverance: Perseverance involves resilience and determination in the face of challenges and setbacks. It includes not giving up on the journey of recovery, even when the going gets tough. Perseverance is crucial in recovery as it requires individuals to stay committed, persistent, and resilient in their pursuit of lasting change and growth.
- Spirituality: Spirituality involves cultivating a personal, meaningful, and individualized relationship with a higher power or a power greater than oneself, as one understands it. It includes exploring and nurturing one’s own beliefs, practices, and connection with something greater than oneself, which can provide comfort, guidance, and support in recovery. Spirituality can be interpreted in various ways, depending on an individual’s beliefs and values, and can play a significant role in finding meaning, purpose, and inner strength in the recovery journey.
- Service: Service involves giving back and helping others without expecting anything in return. It is a fundamental principle in recovery that emphasizes the importance of altruism and being of service to others as a way to maintain one’s own sobriety and well-being. Service can be practiced through acts of kindness, volunteering, sponsoring others in recovery, and being a supportive member of a recovery community. Service involves helping others in need, giving back to the community, and contributing positively to society. It includes acts of kindness, generosity, and selflessness, as well as being of service to fellow members in recovery. Service is important in recovery as it fosters a sense of purpose, connection, and fulfilment, and promotes a positive impact on others and the broader community.
Other principles embodied in the 12 steps
In addition to the spiritual principles, the 12-step programs also emphasize several other principles that are inherent in the 12 steps themselves. These principles are designed to promote personal growth, self-awareness, and positive behavioral changes in individuals seeking recovery from addiction. Some of these principles include:
- Self-Awareness: Engaging in introspection, self-reflection, and self-assessment to gain insight into one’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and to identify patterns and triggers related to addiction.
- Responsibility: Taking ownership of one’s actions, behaviors, and choices, and being accountable for the consequences of those choices.
- Action: Taking intentional and proactive steps towards recovery, such as attending meetings, working with a sponsor, practicing self-care, and taking positive actions to make amends and make changes in one’s life.
- Fellowship: Engaging in supportive and meaningful connections with others in recovery, building a sober support network, and participating in the fellowship of the 12-step programs.
- Continued Growth: Embracing a lifelong process of continuous learning and self-improvement, seeking knowledge, and engaging in activities that promote personal and intellectual growth.
- Supportive Relationships: Surrounding oneself with positive, supportive, and like-minded individuals who are also committed to recovery, and fostering healthy relationships based on mutual respect, trust, and support. It involves practicing compassion, empathy, and kindness towards oneself and others. It includes cultivating healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding. Love is essential in recovery as it promotes connection, support, and community, which are vital for sustained recovery and personal well-being.
These principles seamlessly woven into the fabric of these programs, provide individuals with a guiding framework for personal and spiritual growth, in their journey towards lasting recovery from addiction. Individuals in recovery can cultivate a mindset and lifestyle that fosters sobriety, personal development, and healthy relationships with oneself and others. Integrating these principles requires a proactive engagement with them on a daily basis. This entails engaging in self-reflection, introspection, self-assessment, therapeutic interventions, participation in support groups, and a persistent commitment to the principles outlined, to evaluate one’s behavior, attitudes, and actions in relation to these principles.
Recovery is a profoundly individualized process, allowing individuals to interpret and apply these principles in alignment with their personal beliefs and values as it may also involve taking concrete steps such as making amends, practicing honesty with oneself and others, embracing humility, seeking assistance and support, and actively participating in acts of service and kindness. The guidance of a sponsor or mentor, and active engagement with fellow members in recovery offers a roadmap for personal growth, self-awareness, and positive transformation. It’s important to note that while the 12-step programs provide guidance and support, each person’s experience of recovery is unique, and individuals are encouraged to interpret and apply these principles in a way that aligns with their own beliefs, values, and needs.